What’s Good for the Goose is Good for the Gander.

Double standards are everywhere! Let’s dive into the meaning of “What is good for the Goose, is good for the Gander”.

Since I’m on a vacation, I’ve had just a few extra moments to do something for me. I say a few moments because it’s a “family vacation”. And Mommys – I know you can relate that a family vacation does not mean vacation from mommy duties. During the few moments for myself, I enjoy Studying for my Nutrition Certification and writing.
This particular topic been a huge theme in my life as of late and it certainly coincides with my previous blog on Fairness or Happiness.
Let’s dive into the meaning of “What is good for the Goose, is good for the Gander”.

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According to Wiktionary, “What is good for one type is equally good for another type, despite any irrelevant differences between the types”.
Now, I have been on both sides.
In my previous marriage and earlier relationships between my sisters,  I will freely admit I would give the double standard. With age and Faith, I’m a little less of the “Gander”, or is it Goose? 🙂 I think you get my point.
I stumbled upon an article this morning that prompted me to blog on the whole Goose/Gander issue. “Does Double Standard Exist in your Relationship
I don’t know the author but loved that she nailed this issue and offered words of wisdom.
The fact is, don’t be mistreated or mistreat in any relationship. Be strong, work it out and recognize when it it’s happening. That’s my 2 cents for the day.

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Happiness or Fairness?

“The happiest people don’t worry too much about whether life is fair or not, they just get on with it”.
-Andrew Matthews

 

I’m not a fan of really long Social Media posts. It’s not because I don’t care. I genuinely do! I really don’t have the time. I started this as a Facebook update but decided  this one belongs on the blog for people to read at their leisure, if they so desire.

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Focus on what matters.

“The happiest people don’t worry too much about whether life is fair or not, they just get on with it”.
-Andrew Matthews

This one is hard for me. Whether it be regarding me, my children, my friends, family or strangers, I am all about fairness. I have a very hard time when things aren’t fair, for ANYONE-even if it’s with myself.  For example, if I receive, win or earn anything that another person may lose out on , I feel bummed! It’s like I ripped someone off.

What helps me through these types of situations is knowing that, in the end, God will take care of it. We all have our turn in this thing called life and need to remember that  happiness is a choice- fair or not! 

You can consistently receive less than someone else- for no apparent reason or because the other person may work just a tad harder than you- who knows! We can compare ourselves to the other person and then compete to fill a void that only seemingly makes us happy. You can also choose to be miserable and hold a grudge against the person on the receiving end. But what about being content with what you have, focus on what matters and move on from there! Things may not always be fair but you ALWAYS have a choice to be happy or not.